Development Through Contemplation

From an educator, about the book:

“A few days ago, I attended a gathering of educators from a variety of educational approaches and unique schools. As we spoke about what today’s children need from us, the concept of ‘to be’ came up almost unanimously.

Ever since then, the question of what ‘to be’ actually means has not left me. I find myself wishing that someone would break it down into its components for me, help me place it in the right box in my mind… or at least find the right way to conceptualize it for me in Hebrew.

A week passed, and now I am sitting with Lilach’s book. The first chapter, which deals with presence, is speaking answers to my questions.

A delight.

Thank you!”

“Lilach gives a fantastic model for listening and being more self-aware.”

“Without a doubt the best gift parents can give themselves.”

“The book is a valuable and practical tool for implementing the respectful parenting approach.”

“It contains knowledge interwoven with stories, and the explanations are so accessible. Fantastic!”

“I’m thrilled by the honesty, clarity, and especially the generosity in presenting the exercises – it’s not at all obvious.”

” A true delight to read a book that is entirely a celebration of Focusing, which is so rare in parenting areas.”

Run, run and read the book “Respectful Parent, Thriving Child” by Lilach Benyamini-Coorsh.

I finally started reading it, and I can’t stop.

Dear Lilach, how wonderful it is to read!

Your ability to describe and hold processes across multiple dimensions and with a wide sense of presence (I am amazed again and again at how the group process you facilitate and describe in the book mirrors the process of parenting), your words are so present and deep, and at the same time simple and fluid.

I am learning so much from every word you place down, מתוך החוכמה וההקשבה הפנימית שלך (from your inner wisdom and listening).

It is a true pleasure to read a book that is entirely a celebration of B.O.T., something rare in the world of parenting books… 😁

I am progressing through the book slowly and with great pleasure. Everything is explained with both depth and simplicity at the same time. It contains knowledge woven into storytelling—high-level material presented in a very accessible way. With each reading, I am deeply moved by the subtle quality of observation.

Lilach, like the kind of mother one can become, plans and also adapts flexibly to what is alive in the group. There is a real sense of a dance-like correspondence between the theory of Focusing and the attentive parenting that Lilach demonstrates.

Wonderful 🙏🏼 Wonderful 💓

Roni Tena

Lilach is an extraordinary healer and a rare professional. This book is both a learning resource and a practical guide for bringing the principles of Respectful Parenting into everyday life.

I have no doubt that this is the best gift a parent can receive—or give themselves.

Rinat Yarden

When I went to pick up the book And If It Were as It Could Be: Focusing in Respectful Parenting from the collection point in Binyamina, I had no idea that the moment I started reading, I would feel as though I had joined a process-oriented mothers’ group without even leaving my home.

I had no idea how much Lilach, through her warm and embracing writing, would support me with every page I read, or how much it would allow for an even greater expansion of presence in my parenting.

At a time when meeting in person, attending parenting workshops, or participating in personal growth programs can be complicated, this book is a much-needed gift—one that supports you, the parent, on the journey of discovering and shaping your own individual and unique way of parenting.

Lital Dari

Hi Lilach,

I’ve already written in the Israel Focusing group, and on the one hand I don’t want to overdo it or make things awkward, but on the other hand, it almost doesn’t feel fair to keep my excitement about your book to myself…

As I read, I feel that you are offering a wonderful model of how to listen and pay attention to oneself while, at the same time, extending that same attention to others.

I am deeply moved by your honesty, your clarity, and above all by your generosity in sharing the exercises and everything else. That is far from something to be taken for granted.

I hope our paths will cross again in the future, beyond the pages of the book as well.

Nitzan Almog